Tuesday, November 22, 2011

Discipline

For those of you who don't know, I have one typical child and two children who are living with food allergies and sensory issues. My oldest child is calm unless her brother and sister egg her on which they often do. My two younger children have so many triggers that it can be tough to prevent their tantrums. I do my best to prevent and de-escalate situations that arise, BUT there are times when they flip out not only at home but also in public.

Many folks want to know how on earth I keep calm when my kids flip out. Well who says I am calm? The key is to keep the kids from knowing how annoyed I am! I help them calm down before I deal with the discipline aspect of their behaviors. This does tend to include deep pressure from a bear hug for my two sensory children and time alone with a book for my older daughter.

Once the upset child is calm, we discuss the situation as well as better choices that could be made in the future if the situation arises again. If there is a correction to be made, such as picking up a thrown toy or cleaning a mess, the child then takes care of it.

Yes, I want to yell and scream, too. Yes I want to throw things and trash the house sometimes. However, if I choose to have a tantrum, I am just reinforcing the idea that being out of control is an acceptable tool to get my way. Trust me, reinforcing THAT idea would be disastrous at my house.

Tuesday, October 25, 2011

Vitamin K Shot for Newborns

First let me say that our first child had the vitamin K shot, but our second and third children did not because it did not seem necessary. Perhaps this makes me biased. However, we are firm believers in making sure our food gives us nutrition. So for those who are concerned or curious, here is why we were not interested in the vitamin K shot.

If your baby's cord is clamped after it stops pulsating then your baby gets all the blood he or she needs. This blood will help baby to have vitamin K as well. Plus, there is no need to treat a disease that is not occurring in a newborn. Yes, some babies DO have bleeding issues but it is rare. The symptoms of this disorder, called Vitamin K deficiency bleeding  or VKDB, include oozing at the cord stump site, blood in stool, or blood in urine (http://www.lpch.org/DiseaseHealthInfo/HealthLibrary/hrnewborn/hrdn.html). Your child's chance of having this issue is estimated to be, "one in 10,000" (http://www.westernsussexhospitals.nhs.uk/services-and-treatments/maternity/what-happens/after-your-baby-is-born/vitamin-k/vkdb/).

If you are still considering the vitamin K shot then check out the ingredients. I had a tough time finding copies of the package inserts but was able to get the following information. There is benzyl alcohol which can cause"toxicity" in babies. Also, "Hemolysis, jaundice, and hyperbilirubinemia in newborns, particularly in premature infants, may be related to the dose of AquaMEPHYTON". "Hemolysis, jaundice, and hyperbilirubinemia in newborns, particularly in premature infants, may be related to the dose of AquaMEPHYTON" (http://web.archive.org/web/20070213093306/http://www.fda.gov/medwatch/SAFETY/2003/03Feb_PI/AquaMEPHYTON_PI.pdf ). When looking over a package insert notice that the vitamin K is synthetic, not from natural sources, and the dosage is always much higher than the recommended amount of vitamin K a baby should receive in a day (http://onlinehealthnews.org/2009/12/high-risks-to-your-baby-from-vitamin-k-shot-they-dont-warn-you-about/).

There also appear to be risks with the vitamin K shot. These risks are under-reported when they become injuries. However, the shot has been linked to leukemia as children age as well as anaphylaxis and infections at the injection site http://www.whale.to/vaccine/vitamin_k_shot.html. As a parent you need to do some research and find out if the benefits outweigh the risks.

If you choose to do a vitamin K supplement perhaps a better choice than a needle being shoved into your child's thigh, is to have nursing mom be sure to take the oral tablets. Even better, get he vitamin K from food (http://www.whfoods.com/genpage.php?tname=nutrient&dbid=112)!

Tuesday, October 18, 2011

Baby Items I Never Used

There are so many items marketed to soon to be parents these days. If you bought them all, then good for you, I hope you find them useful. Unfortunately, I never really used most items with my kids.

I change diapers on the bed, couch, floor, or while my kid is standing up so I never used a changing table. I don't use diaper cream because my kids are allergic to everything and breastmilk cures most things. We limit our use of baby wipes because of allergies as well. Warm water and a paper towel or regular towel work just fine.

With my first child I never bought a nursing pillow. With my second one was given as a gift. I realized quickly that I preferred the side-lying position or a pillow under baby more than the nursing. To be honest, I think the crib was a waste of money because bedsharing is so ingrained in a baby and toddler's brain. They need to be close to mom and dad so they instinctively prefer to co-sleep or bedshare in most situations.

With my first child I purchased too many clothing items and she grew out of them so very quick! Now I know that five to ten outfits is plenty for any of my kids and anything else is a bonus. Also, we have found that using less detergent plus HOT water takes care of funky smells and allergens better than more detergent and cold water.

I have learned that buying a noise machine is a great idea. However, purchasing multiple twenty dollar learning toys is a waste because my kids prefer daddy's soda box plus some paint or crayons. To this day all three of my kids prefer dollar section toys to toy section toys anyway. However,  concern is the potential for poor quality or carcinogens in these toys.

In short, I don't blame parents for buying all the new cool stuff. I do realize now that my family wasted money on many things we did not need. Now that we have three beautiful children, I am very glad to say that we have learned to purchase what our children need and a few extras for fun, not necessarily all the stuff we supposedly need according to society or baby magazines.

Sunday, April 10, 2011

Fun in the sun

My family went to wet n wild today. The baby loved the water, not too hot not too cold. I worried about the chlorine due to his eczema, but he is ok. My daughters had fun and ate junk food of course. There were almost no gluten free foods for me, though. I could have had ice cream buuuut we are trying to limit dairy due to the baby vomiting when exposed to yogurt. Fuuuun!

Saturday, April 9, 2011

My sleepless baby

My first two children both slept through the night unless they were sick or needed a feeding at 6 weeks and 1 year. Keep in mind that we often bedshare or co-sleep with our children until the children choose to sleep in a separate bed/room. My son, on the other hand has only slept through the night 3 times and he is ten months old. He has had issues like "colic", eczema, acid reflux and allergies/sensitivities to food and we think he may be overly sensitive like his sister who has sensory integration dysfunction. So I had to share that since we have changed his diet, treated the skin rashes,  he has been sleeping for longer periods of time. Thank goodness bc I was ready to lose my mind!

Thursday, March 31, 2011

That Florida weather!

Well, it is that time of year again. Time for thunderstorms, tornado watches, and rain by the buckets. Thankfully we are all safe and school/work went on as usual. I am glad not to have to have makeup days so close to the end of the year. I do think there may be some wind damage to the roof but it is minor if I am observing correctly. I will check it out more closely this weekend.

Wednesday, March 30, 2011

Toured a Montessori Elementary and Middle School Today

Today I took my 3 kids with me to tour and discuss a Montessori school. We are considering private school bc public school has so many issues these days in FL. Aside from the torrential downpour, high winds that shook the car, and tornado warnings in neighboring counties, we made it to the appointment. The owners were great. They were knowledgeable about learning, nature, math, child development, etc. They had a great grasp of Maria Montessori and her methods. They had animals including chickens, peacocks, horses, and other wild animals that they did not own but that frequent their 2 acres. The owners checking to see if they have room for our two older kids. If so, then we need to send them back on different days to spend a half day there. Then I have to go back and observe on yet another day. I am nervous to make a choice, but definitely think private school is best at this point and Montessori allows for growth beyond the child's grade level. We will see what happens.

Tuesday, March 29, 2011

School

We are considering putting our school age daughters in private school, possibly a montessori school. Here's to hoping we find a good option that doesn't break the bank!

Monday, March 28, 2011

Baby's eyes 2

Thankfully baby's eyes are considered normal right now. The dr said it had to do with asymmetry in the face/nose area. We are to call if anything changes and to come back in a year if things are the same.:) Now to get rid of that pesky ear infection/respiratory infection he has!

Wednesday, March 16, 2011

Question

So what do you do when your hubby is not as passionate about human rights etc? I am struggling with the fact that he doesn't want to hear about my concerns ever. So annoying.

Wednesday, March 9, 2011

Baby's eyes

Since baby was born I noticed his eyes do not track the same way. They seem to look in similar but not the same trajectory. I teach and have been a nanny as well as a child care worker so I am usually able to tell what is an issue and what isn't. The pediatrician said something about his pupils being fine but that doesn't answer why his eyes aren't tracking correctly. So today I called infantsee.org. They referred me to a free infant eye assessment at a local eye dr office. We will go in two weeks. Hopefully everything is fine.

Skin, allergies, etc

Since early winter baby has had breakouts of eczema that never completely go away. Now we are trying, per doctor orders, a casein gluten and soy free diet. Since I nurse this includes my diet as well. Since I am allergic to peanuts, tree nuts, sesame seeds/oil, and fish plus am a vegetarian this has been a difficult task. I am constantly craving things like pizza and roast beef. I saw a nutritionist who helped a ton. I am feeling better than last week, no more headaches. Baby's rash has subsided in the two weeks since we began the diet so I am ready to add things back in order to establish what the true problem is.

Milestones

I haven't been online in a while. Life gets too busy. My son is nearly 10 mo old and is now not only crawling everywhere but also pushing a walking toy everywhere as well. He loves to eat dog food if given the opportunity and to laugh at his two big sisters. He has two teeth and is close to getting two more as well. It is so fun to watch baby and sisters learn and grow!

Sunday, January 23, 2011

So Sad the Weekend is Over

I finally managed to get most of the laundry and all of the dishes done. So sad that tomorrow begins another full week of work, kids at school, and appointments. Sometimes I feel like I need a vacation! Here's to hoping the baby stops crying, his eczema goes away, and the dogs don't bark all night.:)

Saturday, January 22, 2011

Cross Country Club

My kids chose to participate in a running club at school. They practice twice a week in the mornings and have meets every Saturday at various elementary schools in the area. I have always been proud when they try and succeed in finishing a project even if they do not "win". However, a friend's child won today, we were sooo excited, but I then found out that my children, both of them, had walked rather than running the half mile. I was so surprised. Ha! no wonder they are never ever near the beginning or middle! I thought maybe they just weren't as gifted at running as other kids but no they actually chose not to run! Wild!

On a lighter note, the other parents noticed that one school in particular had 5-10 kids finishing in the top 15 in every race. We are trying to figure out why this is. One parent said it must be because they run their club like a boot camp. We watched them warm up and yes it looked like a high school team not elementary but I don't know if it truly is boot camp style. I am thankful that my children's coaches are more relaxed because, after all, it is meant to be fun not work.:)

Thursday, January 20, 2011

Away Too Long

I forgot how relaxing it was to post! Baby is now hopping, not crawling, and trying to walk a bit. Big sisters are doing great in school and working hard at home. Hubby wants me to quit work altogether bc it would lower our tax bracket and actually free up money. Not sure what I will do.