Sometimes people don’t want to hang out with me. No worries. We can’t all be best buddies. We can’t all be the same, either. I feel this way about some folks, too. I think we all have times when people say or give the impression of “thanks, but no thanks”. It happens.
Recently I was enthusiastically welcomed to participate in a group event. Then, I was told there could be an issue with my philosophies. (My business and blog are not strictly unschool related and this was a red flag for some folks. Guess what? My business will never be 100% unschool related because I have to relate to all school models and all family types in order to succeed even though my family unschools.) Then I did not hear back. It hasn’t been days, it’s been muuuuuch longer. (I will not disclose which event or which group because I’m not here to sling the ‘ol mud. Plus, it is their group and they get to make the rules.) Now, technically they may have forgotten about me, but given the second response I am assuming I was snubbed. I would have appreciated an email saying they officially decline to have me, though. The way the email left it, they were going to set it up and let me know the schedule (even if I was not going to be invited).
At first I was taken aback because of the (first) enthusiastic response. I won’t lie, I was disappointed. But, I don’t want to go where I am not wanted. There are plenty of other groups and events that fit my family just fine. There are plenty of people who accept us for who we are.
My only concern is that I did tell some friends about this group. I would feel like I let me friends down if they attended a group event and were treated poorly because they didn’t stack up to arbitrary expectations.
I am not here to fuss at anyone. I am cool with you as long as your harm none. I did, however, feel the need to reaffirm that we are all important and special. If one group doesn’t care for you, another will.
Keep on keepin’.